Something you don’t want your kid to miss!

Emotional Intelligence, EQ, is a term coined by Daniel Golman in 1995. EQ encompasses:

Self-awareness: the capacity to recognize and understand personal emotions and how they affect those around us.

Self-regulation: the ability to control one’s own impulses and moods.

Empathy: sensitivity to and understanding of the emotions of others and responding accordingly.

Self-motivation: the effort involved in accomplishing tasks or goals.

Social skills: the capacity for interacting and building relationships with others.

There is a strong correlation between high emotional intelligence and effective leadership ability.  These emotional skills are not only valuable in the workplace, but in the home and school environments as well.  Trust, empathy, and communication skills are essential to building and maintaining valuable relationships.  I have worked with many students who, though average academically, became successful adults.  Though others might label them “overachievers”, these young people had one thing in common, high emotional intelligence. Leadership skills enable our kids to become independent thinkers, self-regulating and help our kids to become accomplished adults.     Listed below are parental behaviors that can maximize or minimize the development of high emotional intelligence in your child.  The goal is to maximize one’s own EQ, It’s not always easy.

  • Model…EQ:  Do you remain calm when stressed out or snap at folks in your path, have tantrums when you get impatient?  Do you empathize when your child and others are expressing themselves? The kids will do what they see us doing.
  • Soothe your child when he is upset:  High EQ begins to develop at birth.  Feelings of security and trust develop when caretakers respond to basic needs. This sets kids’ brains and nervous systems up to manage their own anxiety.
  • Help them to regulate their own anxiety: Support their emotional needs when they’re upset but help them to manage the challenges.
  • Active listening: Acknowledge kids’ feelings, empathize even when you may not be endorsing their behavior.  Talk about difficult topics when you’d rather move on.
  • Encourage decision making: Help them develop emotional self-knowledge by giving them the opportunity to make appropriate choices.

The stability of a child’s inner happiness will be determined by the nurturing they receive!

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